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Thank You for the Climb

Thursday is Thanksgiving.  It has always been my favorite holiday.  I love the food, honoring family and friends, and appreciating what it is all about…to be grateful.

I have a tradition.  Every year I ask everyone at my table what they are grateful for.  Some don’t like it and yet, no one has ever gone silent during this reflection.

This Year I Am Grateful for:

Professionally:  My Clients, my great Cohort(s) at Seattle Coach and the many friends I have met along the way, The ICF (International Coach Federation) and their regular inspiring teachings to make us all better coaches and to become better at this craft.

Personally:  Oh my, so much.  My two beautiful daughters and the lessons they teach me every day especially regarding perspective.  My incredible friends who have been with me every step of the way during this past year in good times and in bad, in fun celebration, and given me a shoulder to cry on when I need it.  I cannot forget the professional people either.  Thank you to the attorneys, accountants, financial experts and business brokers and all those who were my rocks in in a recent business sale.

Always and Forever:   My Dad who passed a little over a year ago who gave me my passion, perseverance, generosity and deep caring for other human beings.

Today and Tomorrow:  We don’t ever know what tomorrow brings and yet I am unusually optimistic about it. I hope you are too.

This week I would just like to just say THANK YOU out loud!  Please join me in being grateful.

Carla Kerner is a Professional Transitional and Business Coach working to support clients manage and navigate CHANGE through listening beyond what is being said, providing motivation and accountability each step of the way, and for finding discovery of what works authentically for each individualteam or group.

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Fall…Time To Make a CHANGE?

I really love fall.  It is the time of new beginnings, back to school, crisper days and shorter ones too.  From everything I know through coaching my clients, Fall appears to be a great time to  really make a change.  I find that there are two seasons when people seem to really focus on change.  Fall and winter or January, with the beginning of New Year Resolutions.

I see two types of change in my work.

THE FIRST   When you want to really do something different.  That could be changing your career, changing your job at your current company, finding a life partner or perhaps developing a healthier lifestyle.

THE SECOND   Change just happens and it takes us way out of our comfort zone.  Perhaps you get fired or laid off, your spouse files for divorce, the kids leave and you suddenly become an empty nester or you are forced into retirement and find your life suddenly lacks purpose.

CHANGE happens.  Sometimes we encourage it, while other times it just appears and we are completely blindsided by it.

Since my own story is full of CHANGE, I know it is one of life challenges that can be really difficult to manage, navigate or just simply get stuck in.

This is what I do.  I manage and help others navigate what I call deep change.  For those seeking change on their own,  I really see myself as a motivator, champion and accountability partner.  I listen to your goals and work with you at your own pace, one step at a time to move toward them.

For those  of you blindsided by change, usually managing it can be a bit more difficult.  I am a great listener with an empathetic heart.  However, I won’t allow you to become stuck in what I call, the going nowhere zone.  Together we will work toward empowerment, and moving forward.  I am a great believer in taking a difficult challenge and learning from it to advance and grow.

If you are in need of a Coaching Partner to work with you in whatever change comes your way, I consider myself a Champion for Change and would love to meet you.

Carla Kerner is a Professional Transitional and Business Coach working to support clients manage and navigate CHANGE through listening beyond what is being said, providing motivation and accountability each step of the way, and for finding discovery of what works authentically for each individualteam or group.

 

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That Good Old Fashioned Yellow Legal Pad…How My Dad Gave Some Good Advice

 

It’s August and on August 28th it will be one year since the passing of my late Father.

And so here I am writing my Blog and it seems quintessential that my Dad needs to be in my story.

This Blog is about advice and as Professional Coaches, we generally learn from our training that we do not normally give advice especially without permission; and instead call on our clients to discover what it is they have come to us for through a unique process of self-exploration, powerful questioning,  and deep listening with our own individual style.

If it appears like I am now going off on a tangent, please keep reading because I am now changing gears.

Do you remember the yellow legal pad?  It was a staple in my generation, before the home computer came into our world.

However, the yellow legal pad started its way back to me this past year.

First off, I recently went through a divorce and my attorney whipped it out in all our expensive sessions together.  That yellow legal pad cost me way too much money!

And then it came up again at The Seattle Coaches 10th Anniversary Summit I attended this past Spring as the topic around Brain Science came up in a context of how it is, that perhaps we need to think about actually taking hand written notes at times instead of on our laptops to improve memory outcome.  The example used was, “Hey, does anyone remember the yellow legal pad?” asked Coach Patricia Burgin.  There it was again. I had to smile and then remember…

The yellow legal pad. That old staple of my childhood.

As a kid, I remember so well back in the day when my Dad took notes on that legal pad with his green fine felt tip pen planning his basketball game strategy.  He tried to help me with geometry on that yellow pad during high school. In college he wrote me letters on it, kindly with a one hundred-dollar bill inserted with each letter many times.  Back then I looked more at the green dollar bill than his writing, and now not so much.

My Dad was so many things:  a character, a Basketball Coach, a man of great wit, a great speaker, feisty, generous maybe to a fault, and completely humble and kind.  At his Memorial Service, his Assistant Coach Tom, talked about what it was like to replace my Father.  And then it came up again, that yellow legal pad.

Tom described how bad he felt when he entered my Dad’s office that first day after he retired and everything was gone.  “I mean everything,” he said. “All the papers, all the pictures, all the coffee mugs, everything was gone.  In fact” Tom said, ”I felt guilty.  Here I was taking over a retired man’s job who loved what he did so much.”  And then he continued on that as he opened his desk drawer, there it was, that yellow legal pad with one and only one single phrase of advice on each and every page hand written in green felt tip pen.

The first page read:

“Treat your secretary well”

And then

“Treat your Janitor well.  Remember his name”

And then

“Treat the media well.  Even when you don’t want to.  Remember, everyone has a boss, everyone has a job to do, and everyone has a family to feed”

And it went on and on, until every single page of that yellow legal pad had some profound word of advice from my Dad to that young Coach who was next in line to fill his shoes.

There are some symbols that come into our life every day and remind us of wisdom, love, life, and just moving forward.

I won’t ever look at a yellow legal pad the same way again.

This advice was without permission.  And I think Tom was pretty okay with it.

Thanks Dad for continuing to inspire me.  I like how you give advice!

Carla Kerner is a Professional Transitional and Business Coach working to support clients manage and navigate CHANGE through listening beyond what is being said, providing motivation and accountability each step of the way, and for finding discovery of what works authentically for each individualteam or group.

 

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When CHANGE Made Me Stuck

Recently I had a lot of change happen to me in a two year span. I got divorced, became an empty nestor, sold my house where I had lived for 23 years, decided to go back to grad school and completely changed my career. And all while this was happening, my Dad died and that is when I got stuck. And I mean really stuck.  I thought I was going along and managing all this change fairly well, until I wasn’t, and that is when I felt really broken.

The divorce I was in became more challenging.  I began to not focus well.  A year went by and I felt I was at a standstill.  My Coaching Business was not thriving like I wanted it to, and I was the reason.  I just could not move forward.

I knew there were others out there like me.  There had to be.  I gave myself permission to be sad and ineffective.  Some weeks were good and some were just not.  This entire process went on for about a year. Until I got sick of it.

I wanted to be effective.  I wanted to go out with friends and be happy. I wanted to travel, exercise, focus, and use my gifts and strengths to live my best life.  I wanted to be a great Mom again to my two young adult daughters. I wanted to be the best Coach possible for others who wanted to make a CHANGE.

And that is when it happened for me.  I started to CHANGE because I wanted to, not because anyone else was telling me I needed to or had to.

This wasn’t a fast process. I used my staircase metaphor.  Some days the climb felt fast and good, and sometimes I only got up one stair and it felt hard and slow. And sometimes I just had to sit down and rest for awhile.

This is what I know about CHANGE.  CHANGE is not linear.  It doesn’t just go a long smoothly.  CHANGE is much like a climb to the top of the staircase.  CHANGE can flow or pull us, depending on our resistance to it.  We may move up the staircase quickly or slowly or we may need to sit down and take a rest at times.  The pace of CHANGE does not matter, just how we get there.

CHANGE is forward movement, one step at a time. Although I Coach for CHANGE, I am not finished with my own journey and my own climb to the top of my staircase. After a  period of some mental darkness, I am back at managing my own CHANGE, one step at a time.

Carla Kerner is a Professional Transitional and Business Coach working to support clients manage and navigate CHANGE through listening beyond what is being said, providing motivation and accountability each step of the way, and for finding discovery of what works authentically for each individual, team or group.